Remember this always—to actively not function as the humiliator (as I was taught)
But even (or especially) in my hardest relationships, to act as the cheerleader, the encourager, the hoper, the one who brings light and joy and cheer!
When I fantasize, do not fantasize humiliation—fantasize cheer!
When I plan, do not plan for humiliation—plan for cheer!
When I act, do not ever act to humiliate—act to cheer!
This is my lesson in this life. Not some technical lesson. Not some lesson of writing skill. But to unlearn the lesson I learned as a child (which is that relationships are about being the humiliated or the humiliator)—and learn the inverse lesson—
That my job is purely to bring cheer!
That is why I was placed on this planet—and if not that is how I am re-placing myself here, now
To. Bring. Cheer!